I wish you could see the look on my face. I am not thrilled about leaving my ocean breeze, palm trees and perfect weather. However, I can smell a fresh pot of POSSIBILITIES brewing with our move to St. Louis. My husband received a rewarding career opportunity in the "Show Me State" and I am extremely proud and excited for him and even more excited for us. When I first found out that he was seriously interested in leaving Florida my reaction was not very positive. I absolutely LOVE it here! I thought it was a huge inconvenience because of what I had going on in my career. I was only 5 months into my new position which invested 100% into their employees, the salary offer was 20% higher than my previous job, allowed me to work my own hours, provided me a vehicle for professional/personal use and many other perks. How could I possibly leave???
It was very easy to start thinking about how this move was going to effect me. I immediately began to overwhelm myself with worries. Just the thought of having to find a new place to live, a new school for our daughter, put in for a transfer or find a new job, building a new network of friends and whatever else gave me anxiety. Mind you with this transition we would have to live apart temporarily! Creating these worries made me feel tired, stressed and angry. I slowly began to realize that one small negative thought would turn into a domino effect of negativity. Being a Debbie Downer was just way too exhausting considering it is usually not my style. I have always been Team "Good Vibes Only" but hey even positive people deserve to have a bad day. I had to change my perspective and see the potential in our move. I really needed to just trust the flow of my life and understand this opportunity was presented for a reason. I believe that God's plan is much bigger than I ever could have imagined. At the same time my husband and I had to sit down and have a serious conversation about the vision of our future. Finding the right balance can be challenging at times but it is achievable. I give some and he gives some. Balance has always been a strength of ours and we find it important to not loose sight of that. He understands and respects that it is important for me to pursue and accomplish my personal goals and have independence. I have to remind myself that I am capable of accomplishing all of my goals even when there are curve balls. I started to see the benefits pour in as soon as I opened my eyes. This was a huge decision for us to make and I can remember how nervous he was telling me the news. I'm so proud of him as my husband, as a father, as a professional and as a man. Watching him mature over the years has been so rewarding. He reminds me every day that we are capable of doing whatever we put our minds to. I am extremely thankful to have him as my partner and I must say he has made this transition as easy as possible. Every day he is there and I am here I miss him and the distance always reminds me how much I love him and enjoy being married to him.
It was very easy to start thinking about how this move was going to effect me. I immediately began to overwhelm myself with worries. Just the thought of having to find a new place to live, a new school for our daughter, put in for a transfer or find a new job, building a new network of friends and whatever else gave me anxiety. Mind you with this transition we would have to live apart temporarily! Creating these worries made me feel tired, stressed and angry. I slowly began to realize that one small negative thought would turn into a domino effect of negativity. Being a Debbie Downer was just way too exhausting considering it is usually not my style. I have always been Team "Good Vibes Only" but hey even positive people deserve to have a bad day. I had to change my perspective and see the potential in our move. I really needed to just trust the flow of my life and understand this opportunity was presented for a reason. I believe that God's plan is much bigger than I ever could have imagined. At the same time my husband and I had to sit down and have a serious conversation about the vision of our future. Finding the right balance can be challenging at times but it is achievable. I give some and he gives some. Balance has always been a strength of ours and we find it important to not loose sight of that. He understands and respects that it is important for me to pursue and accomplish my personal goals and have independence. I have to remind myself that I am capable of accomplishing all of my goals even when there are curve balls. I started to see the benefits pour in as soon as I opened my eyes. This was a huge decision for us to make and I can remember how nervous he was telling me the news. I'm so proud of him as my husband, as a father, as a professional and as a man. Watching him mature over the years has been so rewarding. He reminds me every day that we are capable of doing whatever we put our minds to. I am extremely thankful to have him as my partner and I must say he has made this transition as easy as possible. Every day he is there and I am here I miss him and the distance always reminds me how much I love him and enjoy being married to him.
So its been six months now and the first two months were very challenging. Our four year old daughter really had a hard time adjusting to him not being here and would throw random temper tantrums. Often she would blame me for him being gone. It was a little overwhelming for me as well so I could only imagine how hard it was for her. Her daily routine was completely different, so was mine and so was his. Six months later things are now a breeze after we committed to creating new routines for our temporary non traditional way of living. I put in my request for a transfer and we see each other for 4-5 days every two weeks. We established a morning and evening routine for him to speak or Facetime our daughter, when we are together we have date day/night and they have daddy daughter dates. When we talk at night, we talk for hours like teenagers and fall asleep on the phone. It's been smooth sailing and sometimes it doesn't even feel like we are living in two separate states. We will all be together in St. Louis in May. Currently we are in the process of searching for a place to live and making moving arrangements. Wish us luck!
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